When I read this post on Pinterest I knew I would have to share it with you!
You love the man you married- of course you do, but years, kids and houses later are you still best friends??? Here is a fabulous reminder from Danielle at Fancy Little Things giving us 7 Ways to be Your Spouses Best Friend....
7 Ways to Be Your Spouse’s Best Friend
September 3, 2012 by · 35 Comments
A marriage exists between a husband and a wife. A great marriage exists between a husband and a wife who are best friends.
Dave and I were friends for an entire summer before we ever started
dating. It was the ease of our conversation, the similar interests and
fact that we just enjoyed each other’s company that was the kindling for
sparks of romance. Maybe your relationship started out much in the
same way.
So, are you still friends? Best friends? I always tell my 5-year old, “You have to be a friend to have a friend.”
1. Have fun together! Don’t just do the work
together, do the fun together too! My brother and sister-in-law used to
play in a volleyball league together for years while their girls were
young. It was a built-in date night, got them with other friends, and
was something they both enjoyed!
2. Get excited about the things they get excited about!
If it isn’t necessarily your ‘cup of tea’, so what! Try a sip! You
may just like it. My husband has loved baseball since he was a small
boy. I never watched it much, and quite frankly didn’t think it was too
interesting. But after watching Ken Burn’s documentary on it, learning
the roots in American history, hearing about some of the great players
and asking LOTS of questions during games, I have learned to love it
too!
3. Know their story, their weaknesses, their fears…and love them anyway.
Isn’t that what best friends are for? Remember our theme verse this
month, “A friend loves at all times…” (Proverbs 17:17). I know I’m
particularly hard to love in the mornings (and not very loving myself),
but thank God my husband loves me anyway!
4. Make them feel good about themselves! Would you
call someone who only makes you feel worthless and insecure your
friend? Certainly not. Affirm their best qualities. Celebrate their
wins!
5. Call out the best in them. One of the blessings
of a true best friend is that they can speak the truth to us when no one
else will. Hold each other accountable to be everything God called you
both to be.
6. Extend grace & forgiveness. Even the best of
friends have a bad day, say a hurtful things, disappoint us in some
way. Offer the grace in those moments that you’d want in return. My
favorite radio pastor, James MacDonald, says “There are no enduring
relationships without forgiveness.” If you want a friendship that
lasts, a marriage that endures, you must forgive both big & small.
7. Put them first! Don’t let your spouse just be one of your friends. Don’t just let your spouse be a best friend. Make them your most important friend!
Your relationship with your spouse should come before any other
relationship in your life, short of your relationship with the Lord.
Do you have other ways you keep the friendship in your marriage strong? Please share!
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